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October 4th, 2010 issue #2
Feeling, Healing and Transformation
By guest author Lynn Serafinn
Web of Emotions Did you ever sit on the floor for too long and your leg went numb? Remember that horrible feeling you got when you stood up? At first, you don't even feel your leg and your leg might wobble (or even collapse) underneath you. That happened to me on more than one occasion in India after having sat on a marble floor for several hours listening to a lecture. I had to get used to the locals laughing at me whenever they saw this western woman in a badly-wrapped sari fall over her own two feet for no apparent reason!

But once you've made it through the wobble, something else starts to happen— the dreaded "pins and needles" sensation as the blood starts to flow again in your legs. It feels absolutely horrible at first, and there is an overwhelming urge to sit back down on your leg and make it go "dead" again. But we know this is the worst thing we can do. We know the blood has to start flowing again. We know that the "pins and needles" is the signal that our leg is returning to its healthy state, where the leg recovers from its numbness, and we are again able to feel it and use it fully and effortlessly. We know it is necessary to feel the wobble and the pain (and maybe even the falling and the humiliation!) before we can move forward.

The interesting thing is, our emotional world works in exactly the same way, but for some reason, many of us do not respond to our emotions the same way we respond to our leg. Let me explain.

Emotions get "blocked" within us in exactly the same way the blood in our leg gets block—we "sit" on them and do not allow them to flow. And just like our legs, when we sit on our emotions, we go "numb". We become detached and desensitized to our own feelings, as well as to the feelings of others. In extreme cases, we become incapable of connecting at an intimate level with anyone, what to speak of ourselves. Many of us can go on for years—decades—with blocked emotions.

Web of EmotionsWhen something shakes us up from our "numb" state, it is very similar to what happens when we first stand up on our "dead" leg. We wobble. We might even stumble. We have been hiding our emotions from others for so long, that when we start to allow them to be seen, our world starts to rock. People might not recognise or relate to us anymore, and because we fear losing them, we might try to convince ourselves to return to our familiar, stuck, numb place. We might also quite possibly become afraid of what we intuitively know is coming next—the "pins and needles". This is the stage where sensation is returning to us. And just like pins and needles in our legs, it probably doesn't feel particularly nice. We might experience an avalanche of confusing emotions like humiliation, shame, grief, anger, blame and fear. And being inexperienced with these emotions, having been cut off from them for so long, we might not know what to do with them or how to process them in a constructive way.

Now, if we were to sit our leg for decades, you can be pretty sure we would render it permanently useless, and it would be unlikely to heal. But the wonderful thing about emotions is that, even those that have been stuck for most of our lives can come back to life—if we can stay with the "pins and needles" long enough to allow the "flow" to come back into our feelings, without succumbing to the urge to jump back in the box of our numbness.

And just as how the end of the "pins and needles" stage restores full sensation and mobility to you leg, making it to the other side of your emotional pins and needles brings you into full sensation, which leads to flow at a heart and soul level. In both the leg and our emotions, feeling is the doorway to healing, and healing is the doorway to transformation.

Memory in the Cells And while the above analogy is my own, the essence of this story is the fundamental principle of the book Memory in the Cells: how to change behavioral patterns and release the pain body by my client and good friend Luis Angel Diaz. The book teaches both the theory and the practical methodology of what Luis calls "Cellular Memory Release" (CMR), where you learn how to FEEL your emotions at a deep level, not only for the purpose of healing old wounds, but also of transforming them so your life is full of awareness, sensation, aliveness and flow.

As Luis puts it, "It is about transforming the 'Pain Body' into the 'Joy Body.'

Memory in the Cells is coming to Amazon THIS TUESDAY October 5th. In celebration of the release of his book, dozens of Luis' friends and colleagues have kindly donated a complete library of personal development gifts that you can download for free, when you buy the book Memory in the Cells on the day of its launch this week. I'm also giving away a free download (audio and text) of my mini-eCourse "Making Friends with the Monsters Under Your Bed."

To find out more about the book and the free gifts, and to see a video in which Luis talks about how he came to develop this method to help people learn how to deal with pain, go to:

AND... when you buy the book on Tuesday, Oct 5th, not only will you receive those free gifts, but you will also receive a special FREE 2-part LIVE online class with Luis himself, where he will take you through the CMR process, step- by-step. This is not going to be another one of those self-help books that just sits on the shelf, unused. Luis is truly dedicated to sharing the information and practical tools in the book, and this free class is his way of showing that he "walks his talk."

I hope you'll join me in celebrating the release of this highly-practical, and truly healing, book by Luis Diaz. To buy the book on Tuesday October 5th, just go to

And then, I hope to see you on the free class a few weeks later.

With wishes Lynn Serafinn

Lynn Serafinn is a transformation coach, marketing coach, & author of The Garden of the Soul.
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